Sweetests, darlings, lay down your story.
My wish for you is that you are able to lay down, change the story of your life as you know it, as you recognize it, as you accept it. And if you haven't begun an intuitive eating practice, part of your story will be about black and white thinking. I'm on the diet/exercise routine, or I'm completely off it, and I mean completely! When we consider change we need to give up the notion of extremes. Change is a process, we can't snap our fingers and have a new reality. But we can intentionally decide to create change and practice that which brings it about.
Lay it down.
In my work with clients, I notice time and time again how they use certain phrases to describe themselves, to describe their relationship to food, or to describe their "lot in life." “ I can't eat pancakes, I would never stop." "I always pick men who cheat on me, I expect I always will." "My 5th grade teacher told me I was tone deaf, so I never sing." "I didn't make dance team in middle school so I know I can't dance." "If I'm not on a diet, or "eating healthy," I don't exercise because what's the point?"
The more we tell ourselves these stories, the less we will be able to effect change. Change comes through thinking differently about ourselves. Change comes from trying on new beliefs about ourselves. Change comes from identifying the critical voice that keeps us stuck, debilitating it, and providing a kind, loving, gentle reframe. Change comes from identifying our story and each time we hear ourselves repeating it, saying, "Oh, that's my old story, that's not who I am now." Next,making a bold statement about your current status. "I can eat pancakes whenever I'm craving them but I'll do it mindfully, and if I do that, I have confidence I won't overeat them, I'll find them delicious and satisfying." "It makes sense that my barometer regarding men has been off based on my childhood experiences, but now I'm learning about red flags and what contributes to a healthy relationship." Be kind, be gentle, be bold. Practice believing something new about yourself. Because practicing new beliefs about yourself ties directly into your relationship with food. As long as we buy the old, untrue stories, we will continue to spiral downward, self-sabotage, and numb.
Free yourself, begin changing your story. Seek support in doing this because honestly, it’s hard to do by yourself. Ultimately, only you can create your life but your ability to seek inspiration, support, and guidance will light the path...